(I'm back from christmas food coma yay! missed the bants!)
I'm so impressed with your sherlocking and that card + the apology together make so much sense and it's adorable.
It also shows how Dan's parents see him and Phil naturally as being together (literally or figuratively) more than just as friends or roomates (at least that's how it seems to me, acknowledging some other person in your son's christmas card seems like it's somebody important in their life).
On the topic of it not being addressed to them both - in my experience it depends a lot on the family how they handle this kind of stuff. This also plays into the whole spending xmas together or not discussion imo. There are some where the kids + partners are totally seen as a unit after being together for a while, while others always still see the individual person and pick gifts or address them accordingly. I remember that time when all the grandkids of our family made a calender with pictures of us to gift to my grandma, and literally everybody who was in a relationship naturally choose a picture of themselves with their bf/gf while my siblings and me were really irritated about that because we all hadn't even thought of including partners.
And without knowing much about Dan's family they seem to be more of the individualistic, loose ties kind with less traditional family values.
annetamiau wrote:Re: cardgate
Re: identity. I never say anything when this topic comes up because I'm really uneducated on that regard (I do enjoy reading everyone's thoughts because I take it as a chance to learn more myself). However, I would like to say that we live in a little bubble here (and on tumblr), but the rest of the world walks at a much slower pace when it comes to these issues. I live in a quite progressive area and before getting into Dan and Phil and discovering tumblr I didn't even know that pronouns other than 'she' or 'he' were a thing (I did know about transexuality, but had a very shallow and probably stereotypical view of it). Even nowadays, identity is not in the secondary school science curriculum at all (at least in Spain), and most teachers don't even pay much attention to sexuality either. I guess my point is that being inclusive and coherent about identity is much more difficult than it may seem from this corner of the internet, and that I do value that Dan and Phil (and some other youtubers) are making a conscious effort to change the way they think and talk about that topic, even if it's just baby steps.
I agree so hard on this!
I wasn't educated on these topics before reading stuff on tumblr (where also the tone changed a lot over the last 5 years or so) although I've been in leftist/activist circles for ages. I guess most of my political friends dont know non-binary genders are a thing, and most of "regular" friends and family don't even have a clear grip on what being trans means.
Same goes for traditional celebrities.
You can be glad if hollywood stars don't say outright homophobic or racist stuff, but youtube and internet people are being held to a different standard imo. Especially Dan, because he's such a self-proclaimed tumblr person and being in fandoms and stuff is one of the things that made him relatable and thus successful in the first place.
Anyway it makes me happy to see how far he, and the community as a whole have come and if there are some slip ups it should be excusable because they are both clearly making an effort to be inclusive and respectful.
Maybe I should just open my Twitter... Yeah, I should.[/offtopic]
(It's still the 31st here, but hey).
) so I hope he continues this is when he messes up, corrects himself.
I live for the detective moments on this site honestly, The Rules is how I found IDB in the first place- it's really neat to become an actual part of the sherlocking process!
